Chronicling the exciting and intimate sexual escapades of people around the country is the basic focus of Sex Across America series. Each episode features a sampling of the erotic landscape in various locations. Many of these places were what you might expect in this kind of program, for example: New York, Los Angeles, Miami, San Francisco and Las Vegas. Others, such as Aspen, Virginia Beach, Puerto Rico, Seattle, New Orleans, Hawaii and Sturgis South Dakota were perhaps not as obvious on the surface, but certainly no less worthy when it came to painting a portrait of sex across America.
Even though each episode met its intended mark individually, we felt the overall picture was left incomplete. Perhaps a simple casualty of pragmatic programming. Hence, a lot of pertinent material didn’t make the final cuts. As a result, the idea of evolving the core concept of the series into a more expansive project was born–and that development begins here.
As we progress, we intend to focus on information that’s both useful and productive for our readers with an occasional nod towards some irreverence and satire as warranted. After all, the broad subject of “sex” in the US does provoke some pretty goofy points of view at times, so why not just embrace the reality of that and make it part of the discussion? In any event, in order to hone in on what’s most useful to a pretty diverse audience, we hope you will actively let us know what’s important to you–and we’ll try to make it part of the subject matter we spotlight.
For us, this is a labor of love–a means for highlighting things that are fundamental to the human experience in a positive and intelligent way (even if tackling controversy at times). For you, it’s a free resource that we hope you’ll enjoy often as we grow. So, please bookmark us, chat us up on your social media fix(es) of choice and, most of all, enjoy our grand adventure that is Sex Across America.
A guy. There’s always a guy. The point guy. The go-to guy. The guy with the skinny. The guy behind the scenes who knows where all the skeletons are stashed. The guy–well, you get the idea.
For the past 20-plus years in the adult entertainment industry, that guy has been Tod Hunter. Perhaps the name doesn’t strike you along the likes of a Flynt or Hefner, but that shouldn’t diminish his place as a prime mover and shaker in the business. As one of the industry’s preeminent film critics, his influence–both on producers as well as audiences–is legendary, well earned and merits his place as a key thought leader.
The fact that he’s also an eclectically great guy probably doesn’t hurt either. Politically, he’s solidly duct-taped to the left wing, but you really have to love a guy who quotes Reagan and Jefferson in support of liberals–and makes sense doing it. Personally, his lifelong love of show business manifests itself today with his membership in Hollywood’s renowned Magic Castle, where he’s also a docent. Professionally, his gritty work ethic is balanced by the soul of a poet.
Hunter got his start writing for a popular TV game show and for the L.A. International Film Expo. In 1997, he came across an Adult Video News (AVN) advertisement seeking film reviewers. Hunter recalled, “The ad asked, ‘Can you write?’ Check. ‘Can you meet deadlines?’ Check. ‘Can you be a smartass?’ Oh yeah. That’s me. Actually, I just thought it would be a great gig because it offered an inside look at what goes on in adult entertainment, but it turned into much more.”
What it turned into was becoming a competent, activist voice in an industry poised on the verge of significant change at that time. With the internet still in its relative infancy and its potential only beginning to emerge, Hunter became a proactive advocate for quality adult entertainment in America, acting as a positive force throughout its integration into the mainstream zeitgeist. “It’s been an interesting time because the internet has really helped take away a lot of the stigma that used to be there,” he stated. “It’s much more accepted now. People know who Ron Jeremy is when he walks down the street. But it’s also created an entitlement attitude because of the proliferation of free material out there. It’s just like any other form of art or entertainment. You get what you pay for and usually the cheaper it is, the crappier it is.”
His eye for quality genuinely set him above the crowd right out of the gate as he went about the business of finding the gems in the pile. For example, in 1999, he was sorting through a stack of screeners one late night in his office when he came upon a production that had captured little interest entitled, “Double Feature.” “A bunch of people had passed on this one,” Hunter recounted, “but about 20 minutes into it, I knew it was great. I was completely blown away by it.” Double Feature went on to capture 10 awards at the 2000 AVN Awards (the industry’s version of the Oscars) and another at the X-Rated Critics’ Organization Awards that year. Today the film is widely regarded as a classic. “I love those kinds of moments where you just know you’re onto something special–where you just want to tell everyone to get their own, this one’s mine!” Hunter related.
We first got to know Tod as he tooled around with us in a massive, golden SUV nicknamed “Vanzilla” during the San Francisco episode of Sex Across America in 2000. Rather than just review completed screeners like most critics, his approach was to invest the time necessary to see the whole process from start to finish. He did this to get a better perspective of production challenges, but also to gain a firsthand appreciation of the performers and crew involved. The result was developing a unique, signature style featuring the ability to remain professionally positioned on the periphery yet able to build a sincere, personal rapport across the board. In a field where it’s easy (and perhaps even beneficial) to be cynical and jaded, Hunter is one of a kind in the sense that he fully immerses himself until becoming a subject matter expert while maintaining the integrity necessary to critique that subject objectively.
Taking that a step further, he doesn’t limit his engagement to the set or the screening room. He actively follows his subject wherever it goes and in whatever form it takes. For example, besides being one of the foremost non-resident connoisseurs of all things adult in Las Vegas, he’s also a ground floor supporter of the long-standing phenomenon known as Porn Star Karaoke (PSK). Billed as the “Longest running ongoing weekly adult industry event,” PSK has been going for over 10 years and has become a weekly staple every Tuesday night at Sardo’s in Burbank, CA. “It’s the only ongoing gathering of the adult industry,” Hunter noted, “and it’s a great, fun way to keep up with who and what is going on.” Keeping up with all of that, especially these days, is a monster task. He makes it look easy–a trait common among those few who are world-class at what they do.
So, if you’re ever in the Southland and have nothing to do on a Tuesday evening, now you have something to consider–and you might just run into The Guy–the guy with his finger solidly on the pulse of all that’s going on in sex entertainment in America–our good friend, Tod Hunter.
(You can follow Tod through his website at Tod-Hunter.net or on Twitter @TTodHunter)
We’ve said it before: Sex education in America needs to be improved. The point can certainly be argued rationally and there are, of course, many valid perspectives on the matter, but while some progress is being made, a recent report from the Centers for Disease Control cited that over 80% of teens ages 15 to 17 have had no formal sex education before they have sex for the first time. At Sex Across America, we think that kind of figure indicates that a serious problem exists.
Without a doubt, it’s often an uncomfortable subject to bring up at local school board meetings, but the sad state of sex education across the country should be inspiring educators to lead rather than give in to that discomfort. That said, it’s often not just a matter of overcoming community objections to curricula content or gaining consensus about what material should be taught to which age groups, but also about ensuring teachers are fully prepared to deliver the information and appropriately mentor students through the process. In that regard, some leading sex educators are stepping up and investing their experience in building a framework that makes sense.
As a project sponsored by the non-profit organization, Future of Sex Education, a comprehensive plan entitled, The National Teacher Preparation Standards on Sexuality Education, was recently published which outlines standards for preparing teachers to deliver sexuality education. Specifying seven standards along with success indicators and examples, the project seeks to establish a common national foundation for ensuring that every middle and high school student receives a complete, age-appropriate sexuality education. The result is the first time that specific standards have been established for educators charged with the responsibility of providing sex education.
Of course, a plan is only as good as the degree to which it’s implemented and while this project is a nice step in the right direction, it has to be adopted in order to have any real impact. It’s hard at this point to gauge the actual interest in it, but with the stakes as high as they are and recognizing the genuine challenges involved with sexual health education, embracing a reasonable structure for better preparing those who will eventually be responsible for providing sex education has tremendous merit towards solving a serious and growing problem.
If nothing else, it does demonstrate that there are many who are not content with just sitting around and hoping for better results.
It’s an all-too-familiar scene that happens to the best of us: A confrontation occurs with your significant other and, as things heat up, one wants to break contact and cool off while the other wants immediate resolution and just can’t seem to let it go. Is it just a “normal” relationship dynamic? A sign of incompatibility? Verification that opposites attract?
According to relationship coaches Judith Claire and Frank Wiegers, the core of such issues is actually rooted in biology. Their new book, So That’s Why They Do That!, uses an interesting and innovative approach to not only explain the physiology of intergender communication, but also offers effective, easy-to-use strategies for working through and improving many other related concerns. The first in what they intend to be a series on relationship dynamics, the book applies a fresh approach that balances being user-friendly for men while being fully engaging for women. Systematically, they describe this approach as Top Gun Love.
Without a doubt, it’s a catchy name, but there’s also some interesting background in how it came about. Understanding that the primary market for relationship improvement books is comprised of women, the authors wanted to create a unique approach that would be equally inclusive for men. Wiegers, who earlier in life was a Vietnam-era fighter pilot, recognized that military-style operations manuals used a highly effective syntax that made it very easy for a diverse audience– comprised mostly of men at the time–to capture essential information and put it to immediate use. Collaborating with Claire, who has over 30 years of relationship counseling and coaching experience, they developed a systematic methodology that basically resulted in a “user’s manual” for interpersonal relationships–and one with a balanced feel that is evenly appealing to both genders.
The eclectic blend of their respective styles and experiences works in ways that are both informative and entertaining. More importantly, their collaboration has produced a useful system for people to proactively share a relationship with compassionate understanding instead of suffering through the reactive effects that seem to be so common. With almost 140 years of practical experience and expertise between them, it’s certainly worthwhile to take a few moments and see if what they have to offer might benefit you and your loved one.
(If you would like more information about Judith Claire and Frank Wiegers along with their Top Gun Love approach to satisfying relationships, you can connect with them through their accounts on Facebook or Twitter. Their website, TopGunLove.com, will officially launch in early July.)