(7/15/13) If someone is convinced that their sex-life is so utterly magnificent that they genuinely have no use for adult toys in any form, we think that’s absolutely wonderful and wish them nothing but continued happiness. However, does that really sound like it would be the case with most of the people you know? Probably not.
While various forms of sex toys for both men and women have been around for hundreds of years, for some reason discussing them–or their uses–may still come with some negative connotations. As a result, there’s a lot of misinformation which causes unnecessary confusion. Rather than spending all day identifying (and then assassinating) these silly stigmas, let’s just blow past all of that and presume that toys are supposed to be fun–and fun is good. (In other words, if we can hang up the hang-ups, this will go much more easily.)
While the reasons in favor of incorporating toys into your sexcapades are as varied as the reasons for enjoying sex itself, orgasm assistance/enhancement is clearly among the top motives. As a common example, many women find that using a certain type of vibrator is the easiest and, in some cases, the only way they can routinely orgasm. Even if it’s not the case for you personally, the chances of having a satisfying orgasm greatly increase by incorporating sex toys. If nothing else, the general imbalance between men and women regarding how much stimulation is needed to reach orgasm through intercourse can be significantly equalized by including an appropriate vibrator.
So, where do you start when putting together your first mix of goodies? With so many products on market, the choices can easily be overwhelming. To help get you going, we’ve put together a concise range of products in the Fallen Angel Collection, so check it out to spark some ideas. We recommend starting with the basics, generally considering where/when you might use a particular item and whether it will be more convenient for it to be a battery operated device versus a plug-in. There are advantages and disadvantages either way, so just think about likely scenarios and plan accordingly. Also give some thought to where you’ll be storing your playthings in order to ensure your most private moments remain that way.
A basic toy assortment doesn’t need to break the bank, but quality should be an important factor in your product choices, particularly in terms of materials, craftsmanship and ease of cleaning/maintenance. And while function tends to trump form for most items, we’re talking about very personal items, so design and appearance may indeed be important considerations for you. That said, if expense is a concern, then just start with about three simple items that meet your personal priorities and preferences. Generally, a vibrator, some health-safe lubricant and a “multi-purpose” item are good places to start. Addressing this in a round of He Said–She Said:
Luc says, “If I could only have three items in my toy box, it would be a Trojan vibrating ring, a jar of raw coconut oil and a silk scarf. The Trojan ring is, in my opinion, the best vibe ever. Coconut oil tastes great, works beautifully for massaging and performs well as a sex lube. A silk scarf is a versatile fetish tool such as for blindfolding, tying hands, use as a slave collar and even for whipping naughty butts softly. On the lighter side, if I had a really large toy box, I think I’d get a sybian vibrator, a dozen red long stem roses and a Ferrari 458–all guaranteed to get a woman off.”
Alexandra says, “I think a Power Bullet is a must-have vibrator. It’s compact, easy to use almost anywhere and has plenty of get up and go to get you off. I’m also a big fan of glycerin-free lubricants because they work well for different uses, so that would be a good choice. Finally, if I could only have three items, I’d pick something that could be intimately shared, like a restraint kit. Nothing says I love you like, ‘Stay put–I want to tease you for a while’ if you know what I mean.”
Join the conversation! We’d love to hear your thoughts and suggestions about putting together a first toy assortment as well, so please comment below. If you have questions or concerns that you may be uncomfortable with posting publicly, feel free to contact either of us by email using the links above or at Admin@SexAcrossAmerica.com.